Assholes. We have all seen them. They’re out there and in some cases, they are idolized for the asshole that they are.

One example I can think of is a celebrity chef that has nothing but foul language and insults to spew. This is good for ratings, but I would point to that and ask what good is coming from that behavior? The answer is nothing. No good.

Being an asshole is easy. All you have to do is let your personal restraint go and say anything you want without regard to how your behavior impacts the world around you.

I don’t like being around assholes and it takes great restraint on my part to not be one. There’s a time and a place for everything, except for being an asshole. The thing about being an asshole is that you chose to be one. That’s right, you are in control of you. Nobody can make you do it. You and only you determine how you react to the variables in your life. It’s your choice.

Are you the type of person to make a scene? Are you the type of person who flies off the handle and is quick to berate someone for minor inconveniences? Do you make fun of people to their faces or behind their backs? Are you a master of making mountains out of molehills?

I used to be and still can be from time to time, however I have discovered a big secret that I am going to share with you: nobody likes to be around you when you are an asshole.

Think about that for a minute. It takes great effort to do some serious self-reflection to assess yourself and think about how you interact in the world. If you are an asshole, you will see that you are not invited out very much or people have a tendency of shying away from you often. If you make fun of people behind their backs, the people you hang out with will assume you are doing the same thing to them which you probably are. If you’re constantly berating them in front of others, they don’t have to assume.

You will find that if you are an asshole long enough, you will most likely be surrounded by assholes. They have a tendency to gravitate together because they drive everyone else away. If you are lonely and can’t figure out why, maybe it’s because you’re an asshole.

If you are an asshole, there’s hope. You get to control how you respond to the variables in your environment. Rather than fly off the handle, take a moment to evaluate the situation and practice taking calm and measured responses to challenging situations. Don’t make fun of people. It’s rude and unproductive. The first step is to understand if you are the asshole and if you are, there are ways to change your behavior. You just have to come to a realization and choose to do something about it.

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